Old Wisdom, Bad Wisdom: Play Hard to Get
Written on Sun, 12 June 2016We have heard the old adage told by older women to young ladies, play hard to get to protect yourself.
It certainly has its merits:
- You want to be sure that man really wants you
- You want to be wanted
- You make sure those who are short-termed interested are filtered out
It does make sense in this light. Yet have we also considered the consequences?
Play hard to get, and you will be treated like a trophy when you are gotten.
I'm not sure about you, but I'm pretty sure most ladies still want to be loved even after marriage. No wife would want to be a decorative ornament in a big grand home.
Playing hard sends a very wrong message, that relationship is a game, and you're the prize. You're not a walking badge beside him, a trophy in the kitchen, a status for him to brag.
Does the old wisdom still hold its place in our modern culture? I believe it does, but with much less importance. Ladies should consider that love works both ways. While ladies seek to be loved, men seek to be respected. Ladies, do what you need to know that your man loves you, and respect him as your man, your husband, you lover, your companion for life.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. - Ephesians 5:33
